That picture at the end of you with the question gutted me. The answer is no for me/my family too and also, geez…it’s easy to love!!! As I’ve said before, parenting myself has given me far less grace for how I was parented. Also this: “We who want us all to survive are not as good at propaganda as are those who have bought into the lie of white supremacist patriarchy.” I want to be part of actual good news.
"To be close to him meant I had to love what he loved, and hate what he hated."
I never put this together in my own experience until just now. And it's devastating. As aloof and moody and occasionally violent as my own father was (and, yes, he was also heavily into Limbaugh), there was still a part of me that was longing for acceptance. There were a couple of Limbaugh books at home I would performatively read sometimes although it was all over my head. We did have some common interests to bond over that helped keep a superficial relationship going after I deconstructed, but eventually that ran dry as his faith/politics became supercharged. And to be honest the only times I felt he was truly proud of me was when I was demonstrating the most fealty to the worldview I was expected to adhere to--first as a Christian college student who "surrendered" to the ministry, then as an on-fire Christian summer camp staffer, then later as a football coach at a Christian school (bonus points for the masculine compensation). We were never very financially stable and "economic anxiety" would be an easy excuse for my family's cultural grievance, but we all know it was never really about that.
Thank you for this, DL. Ever since the DEI witchhunt started, I've experienced a new level of existential disorientation. As a bilingual/ESL teacher who works with multilingual families in public schools, diversity, equity, and inclusion are right at the top of my list of core values. It simply blows my mind that this is where our country has turned. I had just started to wrap my head around the idea of how racism is reproduced and "hidden" in plain sight in U.S. society, and so the overtness is now simply shocking. Thanks to you and Krispin for making this space to process all the awful things. ❤️
That picture at the end of you with the question gutted me. The answer is no for me/my family too and also, geez…it’s easy to love!!! As I’ve said before, parenting myself has given me far less grace for how I was parented. Also this: “We who want us all to survive are not as good at propaganda as are those who have bought into the lie of white supremacist patriarchy.” I want to be part of actual good news.
Yeah, so often people are like "you'll see when you're a parent" and we do see... And it's not the conclusion they expected.
"To be close to him meant I had to love what he loved, and hate what he hated."
I never put this together in my own experience until just now. And it's devastating. As aloof and moody and occasionally violent as my own father was (and, yes, he was also heavily into Limbaugh), there was still a part of me that was longing for acceptance. There were a couple of Limbaugh books at home I would performatively read sometimes although it was all over my head. We did have some common interests to bond over that helped keep a superficial relationship going after I deconstructed, but eventually that ran dry as his faith/politics became supercharged. And to be honest the only times I felt he was truly proud of me was when I was demonstrating the most fealty to the worldview I was expected to adhere to--first as a Christian college student who "surrendered" to the ministry, then as an on-fire Christian summer camp staffer, then later as a football coach at a Christian school (bonus points for the masculine compensation). We were never very financially stable and "economic anxiety" would be an easy excuse for my family's cultural grievance, but we all know it was never really about that.
Thank you for this, DL. Ever since the DEI witchhunt started, I've experienced a new level of existential disorientation. As a bilingual/ESL teacher who works with multilingual families in public schools, diversity, equity, and inclusion are right at the top of my list of core values. It simply blows my mind that this is where our country has turned. I had just started to wrap my head around the idea of how racism is reproduced and "hidden" in plain sight in U.S. society, and so the overtness is now simply shocking. Thanks to you and Krispin for making this space to process all the awful things. ❤️
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I kept agreeing out loud every other minute.
Precious Memories has been my recent deep dive on Christian ephemera from that time period, deffos fundy funko pop. Very 90s Christian consumerism