Time for a STRONGWILLED Survey!
Help our project by taking a survey about the current-day impacts of growing up with religious authoritarian parenting
Hello STRONGWILLED community!
While we’re in the middle of this series on sexual abuse in religious authoritarian communities and churches, we’re looking ahead to our next topic: a deeper dive on the long-term impacts of growing up with religious authoritarian parenting.
Since the beginning of STRONGWILLED, we’ve explored how this kind of parenting affects the children who grow up in it, as well as how RAP authors taught parents to treat kids during certain developmental phases. This next year, we’re going to be exploring the many different ways that this kind of parenting impacts how you relate to yourself, show up in relationships, and engage with the world. And we’d love your help!
Here’s the survey:
The Religious Authoritarian Upbringing Impacts Survey
We’d love for you to take this survey yourself, and then share it with someone in your life that might find it applicable. We’re hoping to gather responses both from our STRONGWILLED community, as well as those who grew up with religious authoritarian parenting that aren’t familiar with our work. Please share this far and wide (within your comfort level).
As always, much thanks to you all for your continued engagement and support in this project!
I would like to talk about how Dobson top parents to show such incongruency between their emotions on the inside and the emotions that they were expressing.
What does that do to a kid? You have these parents that are feeling chaos on the inside as they’re absolutely destroying their kids, but they have to show on the outside that they’re calm and collected.
As a kid, I walked away from that thinking my dad was a horrible person, but of course he would remember what he did. The fact that he didn’t remember it broke my brain even more. Serious gaslighting.
How many parents calmly spanked their kids like Dobson told them to but were so emotionally wrecked from it that they blocked the memory?
Also, just the hours of time I’ve had to spend dealing with my mental health instead of doing the things that I should be doing for the day! Focus on the family has stolen probably years from my life at this point. I’m furious about that.
"I feel seen" is an understatement. Wondering if I should share this and my responses with my therapist.